Do you save good things?
And by this, I mean do you consider some items so precious that you rarely use them, lest they get, well, used?
I do. And this is not a Good Thing.
Recently I realized that I hoard some of my nicest stuff, ostensibly protecting it from wear so that it will be (mostly) pristine when I want to use it. Which is often never.
This Prada bag is a great example.
I bought this a couple of years ago with the idea that it’s a classic and an investment piece.
By “investment,” I also mean in my image and not in potential re-sale value.
This bag was supposed to say something about me: polished, luxe, sophisticated.
Of course I am often not any of those things, so it mostly continues to live in a box in my closet.
When I do take it out, it’s usually to go to a work event, like a conference, and then back the bag goes into its protective home.
I probably feel this way because I didn’t grow up with designer anything around our house and luxury items still sometimes feel irreplaceable if ruined despite consciously telling myself they’re Just Things.
To me, true decadence is having something nice and not really caring at all about it.
A former coworker used to sling around this giant Vuitton bag given to her by her boyfriend like it was a hobo’s bindle. She would carry (and spill) her lunch in it. Toss it in the corner of Labor and Delivery at our hospital. Drag it behind her. I couldn’t imagine ever being that carefree about something so spendy, but the more I think about it, maybe she had the right idea. It’s Just a Thing, and a practical one that’s meant to be used.
My weirdness for saving nice things also extends to travel.
I hate taking worn-out things on trips, so I practically have a whole separate wardrobe of things to wear on vacation.
There are swimsuit coverups and sandals that only see exotic beaches. Cashmere scarves and cardigans that are only meant for drafty airplane coverage. White tees that stay unworn so they can stay white. Delicate clutches for nights on the town. A Kate Spade wallet that I only use for foreign currency (!). You get the idea.
While it’s unlikely that I’ll ever get to my coworker’s carefree state of mind, I think acknowledging the problem is step one to solving it.
The tricky part is that I still am waiting for a personality transplant where I stop ruining everything I touch. Wish me luck.
What about you? Do you save your best stuff or use it with abandon?